Finding an Agent

In this series, first-time authors Mollie and Liz take readers through the emotional ups and downs of pitching and writing their forthcoming book. Each post will cover a different part of the process in chronological order. We’ll provide the behind-the-scenes details, like emails from our agent and editor, and we’ll get real about our own feelings regarding contracts, deadlines, and collaborative writing.

I’ve always loved the intersection of math and art. In 2012, I began creating “qualitative data visualization” projects in which I tried to model topics that are often considered unquantifiable (e.g. love and feelings). One of my projects, 14 Ways an Economist Says I Love You, which reimagines economic concepts as love notes (e.g. “The marginal returns of spending time with you will never diminish” and an accompanying chart) went viral that year and was featured on the Freakonomics blog, on the front page of the Economist.com, and by the Financial Times.

As I found out later, Lisa DiMona, a literary agent at Writer’s House, saw the piece, began following my subsequent work, and two years (!) later, liked a tweet in which I linked to one of my illustrated stories.

I must have been feeling particularly narcissistic or needy that day, so I decided to look at the profile page of everyone who liked my tweet. I saw in Lisa’s bio that she was a literary agent and thought, “Oh sh!t, I would love to write a book. Maybe I should email her?” I finally did write her a note (subject line: “You liked my tweet a while ago - follow up!”), though it took me two months to work up the courage to hit send. Lisa and I hit it off, met in person, and in the fall of 2014, I signed a contract with Writer’s House and Lisa became my literary agent. Life was magical and I thought I had sailed over the hardest hurdle. Now all I had to do was write a book.

How wrong I was. Writing a book is a grueling and lonely process. I spent the next year putting a few ideas together but nothing seemed catchy or ambitious enough to fill an entire book. I was also set on writing something dense and intelligent that combined, well, everything (illustrations, charts, research, empirical evidence). My dream was to create an utterly charming but rigorous argument in favor of… I didn’t know.

Enter Mollie! In 2015, Mollie and I began writing articles on how it feels to be an introvert in a workplace designed for extroverts. Our skills, personalities, and writing&illustrating processes were complementary, so working together not only felt like a very natural progression of our friendship but also was easy.

After an article we wrote for Quiet Revolution, 6 Illustrations That Show What It’s Like in an Introvert’s Head, went viral with 1.5 million views (it was republished on several other websites including Huffington Post, where it had more than 80,000 views), two things became clear. First, an illustrated and affectionate look at how X why feelings matter at work seemed to strike a chord with readers. And second, Mollie and I worked together so well that I began to think we should write a book together. Mollie had obviously been thinking the same thing, because one afternoon as we joked about writing something more extensive together, the conversation quickly turned into a serious discussion. It was something like, “Hey wouldn’t it be funny if we wrote a book expanding on this article together?” “Haha yes! …. maybe … we should actually do it?” “Oh snap, we totally should.”

In July 2016 I wrote an email to Lisa. Here are a few snippets:

Hi Lisa,

Hope you are well! I will get straight to the point.... so obviously my book writing has been moving at an unfortunately glacial pace. What do you think of me writing/designing/illustrating a book with a friend of mine?

I'm happy to talk more/provide more info on Mollie but would love to hear your initial thoughts. I've found the idea of writing/working on such a massive project with a partner, especially someone who balances me out so well exciting and less daunting. Our book would focus on feelings about/at work and how they influence productivity/creativity/performance etc. We'd like to weave in our own narrative either through informal blurbs or conversation sections at the end of each chapter (though obviously we'd be open to whatever).

A few days later, Mollie met with Lisa in New York. They instantly liked each other and the rest is history! Mollie and I signed a joint agreement with Lisa and Writer’s House in August 2016. Life was magical and we thought we had sailed over the hardest hurdle….

How wrong we were!!

Mollie: Looking back, I realize that I completely lucked out by having Liz already snag an agent. I know that normally it takes time to find a good agent who is interested in your book idea. Liz’s hard work (and tweeting) had paid off, and we’ve loved working with Lisa ever since. She’s the ideal balance of cheerleader and demanding-teacher-who-you-want-to-please.

Next up: the proposal. :D

Q&A: Working with an introvert

QUESTION: 

I am an extrovert working with an introvert who barely contributes in meetings. When she does, she is very thoughtful and insightful. I am getting frustrated with her because I want her to feel confident enough to contribute, and I am frustrated with myself because I always start pushing the work forward without her contribution. What are some better strategies I can use in meetings that I am running (it's an issue outside of meetings too, but I'm thinking about this one area) that will slow me down and make space for her ideas?

ANSWER:

First, it’s great that you recognize that you have different work styles. (Here is an article we wrote on what it feels like to be an introvert). Try having an honest conversation with her about these differences. Say something like, “I’ve noticed that our work styles are pretty different. I know that I am an intense extrovert, and I think it will be helpful for me to share my preferences with you, and hear yours as well.”

You can then ask her what her ideal workday and workflow look like. Specifically:

  • How do you like to set deadlines?
  • How do you like to prepare for meetings?
  • How do you like to share your ideas with others?
  • How can I help make you be successful?
  • How can we bring out the best in each other?

If she doesn’t know or admit that she’s an introvert, you can suggest that she read Susan Cain’s book Quiet. Your coworker may be feeling insecure about being an introvert, or feel like you want her to be more extroverted. You can tell her that the ideal team has both introverts and extroverts (research backs this up), so you’re happy to be working with her.

A few more ideas: Instead of asking her to contribute ideas in big meetings, could you ask her to meet with you one on one and share her thoughts then? Or, could you flip the dynamics, and instead of running the meetings and giving her assignments, could you ask her to run a meeting or come to you with an agenda? This might help her get into high gear. :)